Tell People That You Love Them

I’ll be honest. The first time I told a friend that I loved them it felt awkward as fuck. But I’ve lost people I cared about, and I’ve known for a very long time that you don’t always get to say what you feel and you don’t always get to say goodbye.

So, gradually, maybe one friend at a time, I started speaking my heart. Drop me off after lunch or a hike and I’ll slip a “Love you!” in as I get out of the car and say goodbye. With some people it’s quick, I don’t expect to hear it back, but I’m thrilled when I do.

I’ve become a hugger too—though that’s on pause for now.

I still hesitate sometimes. I don’t want to weird people out. And if you’re a new friend, maybe I haven’t said it yet, but I’ll get there eventually. I take the “friend” category of my life very seriously. My friends have been my chosen family for a very long time now.

So, even if I haven’t said it yet, know that if I’ve shared my life and stories with you over coffee or a slice of pizza, or if I’ve invited you into my home, know that I don’t let just anyone in and I really appreciate you.

If you ask my husband, he’ll tell you that the world has always been as uncertain as it is today. Many of us are really just seeing that more clearly—and perhaps for the first time. There are lessons to be learned here and the one I learned so many years ago is one we can all carry forward into whatever future we choose to make for ourselves when this is over. Treat every encounter with the people important to you like an opportunity to let them know you care. You’ll have far fewer regrets as life goes on.

Stay safe out there.
Wash your hands.
And while we can’t hug for a while, embrace people with your words whenever you can.